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Date:
           July 01, 2005
Time:
           05:49 PM

Comments

I remember..........the joy, the laughter, the tears, the stories, the suffering. I remember...........the sadness, the smiles, the walks, the anger, the fear, the love, the incredable love...........I remember, and forever it will be.......my dear friends Bob and Ginny, forever and always in my heart.
Love, Roses

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Date:
             May 06, 2004
Time:
            11:19 PM

Comments

5-7-04 Dear John Burkhardt, Thank you for being the greatest webmaster and friend. It's beautiful to see our trip to Assisi ...well,so beautiful...and to go back and re-read past volumes. What a gift of love, supertech ability and artistry! I got a call from the hospice today to say that they are referring more patients and families to the T.J. I was at a meeting this evening with a t.v.-movie producer who worked on the movie, " Woodstock ", then with Mr. Rogers and now is making program about caregiving. He reminded me that the producer is the one who has to be able to do everything...to get a big project to happen...see the big picture, work with everything, everybody, edit it and create it. So thanks for being the best producer around ! Love, Ginny

Date:

May 04, 2004

Time:

03:06 PM

Comments

Ginny & Friends, What a wonderful idea to post a journal entry in remembrance of Bob and to celebrate your own renewal in Italy ! It was a lovely and moving issue, and all of the poetry and readings were perfecto! Italy is everything to me and I, too, want my ashes scattered in this country which has claimed my heart. Was it Virginia Wolff who said "The United States is my country, but Paris ( France ) is my home."? This is how I feel about Italy - each time I return, I feel a rush of joy and an overwhelming sense of coming home. Bob chose such a beautiful, peaceful and blessed spot as one of his final resting places, and I know you are right that the turtle did not pop up by accident on every step of your journey. Until the Turtle Journal, I never knew that the turtle was such a magnificent creature. Plus, the turtle and the eagle belong together, soar together, achieve together. I am so glad you shared the experiences together as you did at home with Bob. This is not only fitting, it is mystical. I know that you all felt Bob soaring above you, guiding you, watching you, loving you each step of the way. I live for my own return to my beloved Italy next year. To all who can go, do so. I believe we all need it, and some of us crave it. To Bob, you will never be forgotten -- strong spirits live forever in and around us. Thanks for sharing, Ginny and friends. Tante amore, Zia B. (Aunt Barb)

Date:

May 01, 2004

Time:

02:35 PM

Comments

Ginny it's so good to hear from you. I have thought of you and the journey you are now on. I like to hear about youe whole path love from Elivia 5/1/04

Date:

February 03, 2004

Time:

03:25 PM

Comments

I just read about this website in an Antioch New England Grad School alumni notes. My brother had ALS for less then a year, he died in 2002. So the ALS connection and ANEGS got me here. Very beautiful and touching. I wish I had been here before reading the "In Memoriam" notice. My brother was a Red Sox fan too (a note in the "In memorium" alumni news). Do you all know that Kurt Schilling is one of the best and biggest fund raisers the ALS society has? Good he is heading to the Bosox, just too bad so many Red SoX PALS aren't around to welcome him...elisabeth

Date:

January 31, 2004

Time:

09:16 PM

Comments

My love for the Cello came after hearing Bob playing at Pine Hill's auditorium during our Waldorf Summer. I remember sitting in the balcony seats hidden so that no one would know I was there. Listening to the Cello reverberate through the room was one of renewal and connectedness. In my own classroom of little people (3 year olds) I played a recording of Jacqueline DuPre and immitated the motions of a Cellist. I then recalled Bob and listening to the music he produced to my classroom assistant. I am saddened to hear of his passing but as he said in one of his poems that their will be a time for Hello's againg. Sincerely Eileen Prime (Rindos) Gilbert Arizona

Date:

January 26, 2004

Time:

07:48 AM

Comments

Dear Ginny, What a moving and loving tribute this site is. I just read your remembrance about the soup kettle and the reduction--beautiful. I am glad you are surrounded by so much love and that this website helps you communicate with everyone. Bob's soaring spirit lives on! Leslie Sterling

Date:

December 16, 2003

Time:

10:43 AM

Comments

My husband, Ed, 39, is in his 5th year w/ALS. I am 38 and our daughters 7 and 9. As we all journey through the emotional rollercoaster ride of ALS, it has been a "gift" to me to be able to read the journal. I will pass it on to my husband in hope that he can let go of the anger and find peace within (as I hope to as well). Thank you very much for sharing it with us!

Date:

December 09, 2003

Time:

08:12 PM

Comments

Ginny, We just wanted to write and let you know that you have been in our thoughts a lot. We hope that you are well. With love Bev, Rick and Kiva

Date:

October 29, 2003

Time:

07:19 PM

Comments

October 29, 2003 Dear Ginny, Thank you for sharing your heartbreaking, courageous, loving memorial remembrance for Bob with us in the Turtle Journal. Your remembrance contains the essential,elemental ingredients of a good and loving life-just as your marriage with Bob gave those who knew you a recipe for life-sustaining love With love, Janet

Date:

October 05, 2003

Time:

12:07 AM

Comments

Dear Ginny, Almost a week has gone by since Bob's memorial service. It was so beautiful! On Monday evening, when we met, we of Resounding Joy spoke from the heart about how it felt to sing there. We were tremendously honored that Bob had wanted us there and I know I speak for us all when I say that it was a real privelege to be included in such an incredible musical lineup! Some of us were so moved by what you said in your part that it was hard to sing afterwards. I felt differently, though. I was enormously moved by what you said, but I felt so much courage coming from you that it gave ME courage! I just want to thank you for your love, courage, and strength. They seem to increase and spread wherever you go! I hope I'll see you soon. With love, Elizabeth

Date:

September 21, 2003

Time:

07:40 AM

Comments

Sept 21, 2003 Dear Ginny, I was on vacation in Vancouver when I received the call on my cell phone. I was on a boat in the middle of the San Juan Islands and said a prayer for you both. I watched the seals and dolphins bob their heads, and the sunset glitter across the sky. Your love and your lives have touched me deeply. To deeply love is to also feel pain. You have incredible courage, more than anyone I know. Sherri

Date:

September 07, 2003

Time:

08:55 PM

Comments

dear ginny, i came across bob's obituary in the cape cod times. i was drawn to reading it because he was so young , alive and vital. i felt even greater compassion to learn he had had als--i work with an elderly woman whose husbnd of als while he was in his 60's. i want to thank you , and bob, for sharing the whole journey with us. For sharing it in such a beautiful expressive way. For bringing alive all the ideas and feelings that make us human; through you both many have been enriched. i wish you many flowers and birdsightings on your path of renewal. may joy return with the freshness of spring. meg

Date:

September 05, 2003

Time:

11:42 PM

Comments

Hi Ginny, I just listened to Bob on the website for the first time. He is so close. someone said today that they felt it was Bob's spirit there today holding all the children and people together so focused for so long. My heart splits for you -- you courageous, daring woman who agreed to let your heart be severed like a pomegranate so that the seeds of love could be spread far and wide. It's hard to enter your grief...the universality of it is only a small comfort, knowing that the little prince was a wise one. Only those who love will ever be party to broken hearts. Thank you so much for being so open with so many. Sue mentioned about Italy ...should we discuss a threesome??? Mi piaccerebbe tanto di andarci e parlare italiano ancora. Love to you both, the inseparables. Margaret

Date:

September 02, 2003

Time:

10:25 PM

Comments

Dear Ginny, Is he really gone? Our hearts are broken. He was extraordinary. Bob has gone to another place but I carry a little piece of him around as those who knew him do. You are in my heart too, my dear friend. I wish you peace. I will endeavor to see you soon and to be a part of your future. All my love, Jill

Date:

August 28, 2003

Time:

11:55 PM

Comments

28 August 2003 Dear Ginny, I don't remember if we talked at Lisa Scott's wedding, but I wanted to send my condolences. I just found out about Bob's death in the Racine paper, and I am so sorry. My memories of Bob go back a very, very long way. We went to elementary school together, and I hadn't seen him for a thousand years when Lisa and Jerry got married. It was so funny to see him there--here we shared this wonderful friend, and didn't even know it! Bob was always Bobby back then. My memory is a little fuzzy--was he born in France , or did he only live there for awhile? Whichever it was, he definitely was the only world traveler we had at McKinley! Bobby and Laurie Ricchio were fast friends back then, and Laurie was one of my best buddies, so I guess Bobby and I were kind of fringe friends! Even way back then, we knew he had a gift for music. From looking at the photos, I see the same smile from all those years ago, too. I only knew Bob for a short time, and it was a long, long time ago, but my heart ached when I read the article about his death. You are in my thoughts and prayers, Ginny. So long, Bobby. Kim Carlson DeLaO

Date:

August 26, 2003

Time:

09:39 AM

Comments

Dear Ginny, I sit here at work with tears pouring down my face. Tears for the incredible journey, tears of common memories of common feelings. never knowing how to express them Bob did that and I thank you for letting me in. Love liz bradley

Date:

August 25, 2003

Time:

08:15 PM

Comments

Dear Ginny, I have never read a more moving journal that attests to your great love and courage,,,,Your beauty with bob is something that i will never forget and always reflect upon .... your creativity to love with openness and light is a symbol for us all in truly knowing what it feels like to be with a deeply human soul... your combined love was so expansive touching so many... I do hope you will be able to makea f ilm about your incredible journey...I know it won't help the sadness and loss now ,, but i know it will be deeply important for so many and to honor Bob... Thank you with all my heart for who you are ,,,for your loving friends and family who i know have supported you ,,,,you are indeed a light ,,I am so grateful that you brought me into your circle of people to learn and grow from ... you are a true delight and great gift to Lesley with the students and the faculty...may your wings always fly high,,,,Dear heart, we are all thinking and feeling with you at this profound and differcult time... With love, Julia byers on sabatical

Date:

August 25, 2003

Time:

06:11 PM

Comments

Dear Ginny You have been in my heart and in my head all day today. I feel such a heaviness around your loss, but at the same time, such an amazing sense of awe and healing after reading through this beautiful web site. I am very moved. With love Tara

Date:

August 25, 2003

Time:

05:50 PM

Comments

Sorry that entry was me. (Seth) i forgot to sign my name. God Bless

Date:

August 25, 2003

Time:

05:48 PM

Comments

Ginny, I'm so sorry. Mr. Mendenhall was really quite a role model in my gradeschool years, and even now he continues to remind me that my current love of all music started with him, and his encouragement in playing violin. He was quite an amazing man. God Bless

Date:

August 25, 2003

Time:

10:58 AM

Comments

Ginny, you and Bob have been such role models of strength and love. I feel so fortunate to have had the chance to have seen it firsthand, and to have gotten to share it! I am sending love and strength and energy through the universe for you Virginny. I know that Bob will always be with you. He (and you!) touched the lives and hearts of so many people. Please know that my thoughts and love are with you during this sad time. ~ Rory ~

Date:

August 25, 2003

Time:

10:58 AM

Comments

Ginny, you and Bob have been such role models of strength and love. I feel so fortunate to have had the chance to have seen it firsthand, and to have gotten to share it! I am sending love and strength and energy through the universe for you Virginny. I know that Bob will always be with you. He (and you!) touched the lives and hearts of so many people. Please know that my thoughts and love are with you during this sad time. ~ Rory ~

Date:

August 25, 2003

Time:

09:51 AM

Comments

I am holding you both in my heart, and I THANK YOU for sharing yourselves so fully. Marcie

Date:

August 25, 2003

Time:

09:17 AM

Comments

Dear Ginny, I am thinking of you today,so I opened the turtle journal for the first time. You and Bob really thought of a wonderful way to care and help others feel connected and less helpless during the passed months. Going through the pictures and writings,I can share a fragment of your lives together. Ginny,I am so sorry for your loss. I send love and hope that we can get together in a few weeks to hug or just to talk. Love, Ronne

Date:

August 24, 2003

Time:

10:38 PM

Comments

August 24, 2003 10;30 p.m. Dear Ginny, My condolences to you. His spirit will linger with you forever. I have been suffering with an ill husband for ten years and I was given your address by my cousin. I needed your website tonite and saw that Bob passed on yesterday. We need courage from the Lord all the time or we cannot go on. My thoughts and prayers are with at this special time. With loving thoughts, Carolyn

Date:

August 24, 2003

Time:

09:54 AM

Comments

Dear Ginny What role models you and Bob are. Teachers indeed. Examples of fully living and fully loving, cherishing and letting go at the same time, knowing that small things don't matter and that small things matter a great deal. Your mutual suffering and devotion to each other are lessons in being truly human, vulnerable and strong, turtles and eagles. One of the gifts Bob leaves with us is the awareness that breathing, speaking, stroking the cat and being able to say "I love you" are not to be taken for granted. Our love and our thoughts are with you as you face the present without Bob physically beside you. Nancy and Chuck

Date:

August 23, 2003

Time:

09:37 AM

Comments

Ginny We ebrace you with all our love Shai and Dan

Date:

August 21, 2003

Time:

09:02 PM

Comments

Ginny & Bob, As you let go and let God enter into this maze of death and dying, peace and joy will definitely surround you both and all of us. Is is easy? No. Never. Will you survive, Ginny? Yes because you are always going to carry the Spirit of your beloved Bob with you. Only by surrendering may your death itself happen. I pray that you may smile and close your eyes and rest in His eternal world of peace and joy. Then you will truly understand what the Turtle Journey was all about. Go in peace and may God bless all of us who are left behind. Much love, M

Date:

August 20, 2003

Time:

07:19 PM

Comments

Hi Bob and Ginny. I cherish the time I was able to spend with both of you during the past year. We found a pond near our new house that brings back memories of sitting at Jamaica Pond, sharing, talking, crying and laughing. You both taught me the importance of taking the time to take a step back and learning to reflect. Knowing when a nice walk to nowhere is vital to being able to walk with a purpose. Throughout your life Bob, you have been a teacher to me and now to the world through the TJ. Thank you for sharing your inner most feelings, I hope writing them brought you the peace you were looking for. I wish you peace on your next journey as you reunite with all those you loved that have left before you. Enjoy your mom's embrace and give my dad a hug for us too. Love, Chris

Date:

August 20, 2003

Time:

03:45 PM

Comments

Dear Bob and Ginny, I have read your journal with great interest and admiration over these past months. I feel badly that I have not written sooner. We just returned from Little Compton and I always think of you all when I'm there because I know you love that place,too. I walked to the end of Lloyd's beach with Eli and Asher for an evening swim. We passed the place where we hung out for an afternoon several years ago. When we arrived, it was very foggy with poor visibility but it slowly cleared and we could see the lighthouse and all the beauty, all around. In reading your thoughts it seems that is what you have done so well...cleared the fog to let the love in. I love you both. I know Whitney does too. I loved what you wrote about good-byes Bob. It is so important to be brave enough to say them. I see it so often here in the hospital... when mothers, parents say goodbye to their babies. So painful but so essential. I say goodbye to you with love in my heart for you and Ginny. Thank you for the priceless gift of sharing your journey. I would love to have your address to send you a card that Eli has made for you. It's a beautiful boat with a rainbow. Love and strength, Amy

Date:

August 20, 2003

Time:

09:41 AM

Comments

Just browsed through the journal and pictures again. I feel I know you even though we never met. I am so sorry I was of no help arranging for a visit to the Fort Myers area last winter. Other areas of Florida may be more accessible. It was a learning experience for me to find out how difficult it is for a wheelchair bound person to fly in and visit our beautiful beaches. Joyce in Fort Myers.

Date:

August 17, 2003

Time:

06:49 PM

Comments

Dear Ginny and Bob, There is a beautiful goldfinch that visits my gardens these afternoons as the day grows quiet and cool. He darts from purple cone flowers to tree bough, his vibrant beauty shimmers in the lengthening shadows. The clarity of his song, so honest. The echo of his mate confirms a presence that is never a question. To bear witness to their flight, is a celebration and a privilege. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Love, Anne

Date:

August 14, 2003

Time:

08:37 PM

Comments

August 14, 2003 Dear Bob and Ginny, I've been to this site many times in the past but tonight I shared it with my mom. She is as touched as we all are. You are both such incredible people - I'm so glad that Matt was able to come to RI and get to know you a little. I hope you are peaceful, Bob. From the sound of it, I think you are... I hope you know how much I love you both and how much my memories of Boston mean to me! They wouldn't be the same without you... Love and miss you, Ginger

Date:

August 12, 2003

Time:

01:44 PM

Comments

Dearest Bob, None of us knows our inner strength until we are challenged beyond anything we could imagine. And even then we are not sure if this will be the biggest challenge we are asked to face in this life. There must be some comfort in knowing that this is your final challenge, your final chance to forgive yourself and others and your final chance to express emotions and love on this side of life. Despite my sorrow and selfishness at letting go of the physical Bob, I do not have to let go of the spiritual and inspirational Bob -- the real Bob. Thank you for sharing so much of yourself with all of us who have been a large or small part of your life, who have been touched by your many contributions to the world one person at a time. I have taken your words about forgiveness to heart, and I thank you for putting it out there. And now, allow me to say goodbye with a wish that your end is pain free and joyous. When I see you in the next part of our journey, I will say hello and pray that hugging remains a part of our interaction there, because you have a big one coming! Rest now, release, and take comfort in a life well led. And remember, we will be there for Ginny. Much love, Aunt Barb.

Date:

August 11, 2003

Time:

07:51 PM

Comments

Dearest Bob and Gin: This is a poem I'd like to share with you and the Journal readers. I read and meditatie upon it often. Reading about you composing your spirit towards death has been both painful and immensely gratifying, as we all are moving towards death - at differsnt paces - but what that pace is we know not. When I first read "How Could I Not be Among You",( Have you read it? I'll send you a copy). I actually thought that when I died I hoped it was from an illnes that gave me time to compose my spirt for death exactly in the way you are doing now. We am sharing your journey because it is all of ours to make - eventually. Thank you for sharing yours. I deeply miss being able to hold you and say goodbye, and hold Ginny as she says goodbye to you and must face life without you. This being human is a guest house, Every morning, a new arrival. A joy, a depression, a meaness, some momentary awarness comes as an unexpected visitor. Welcome all and entetain them all! Even if they're a crowd of sorrows, who violently sweep your house empty your furniture, still, treat each as a guest honorably. He may be clearing you out for some new delight. The dark thoughts, the shame, the malice, meet them at the door laughing, and invite them in. Be grateful for whoever comes, because each has been sent as a guide from beyond. The Essential Rumi Love, Andrea Scott P.S. I do not mean to be pretentious by this offer, but I would be honored to sing at your memorial.

Date:
   
       August 09, 2003

Time:

11:45 PM

Comments

My dear Bob, I feel a strong sense of joy just now. Joy combined with sorrow seems strange somehow, doesn't it? I sense that you have found the peace of acceptance of death that so often eludes most of us mortals. I know that my deep sorrow at the thought of you no longer being a physical presence in my life will never go away, but I also know that I am a better person for having known you. What a kind and loving soul God has given you! Your ability to share your most personal thoughts and experiences during this most difficult time is truly a gift from God. Once again, you have touched my heart. Be at peace dear nephew. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for sharing your life with me and all the members of our family. I do love you so much. Aunt Carole

Date:

August 09, 2003

Time:

08:19 PM

Comments

I have just read your August 4-7 entries. So much beauty and truth there. You say goodbye... and you suggest that it will make it easier to say hello the next time if we say goodbye this time. So I come to you to you here to say goodbye... and again, thanks to you for all that you gave of yourself, particularly to our children. Too often we never fully appreciate what we have until we are about to lose it. I'm sorry that I didn't get to say a fully acknowledged goodbye to you in person... but send a large hug to you at this moment. While I was on the water today, a huge seagull - not really a seagull, but some sort of bird of that sort - soared directly over my boat... closer than one would ever normally come. I thought of what you had written before about such a vision, and wondered if indeed if it was you...on your way to your cloud. That may sound morose to some to type... but in what you have written, you have given us permission to say goodbye, to wish you Godspeed, and beautiful journey. May it be so for you, even as so many will feel such loss of you in their lives. May you find the peace that you seek in letting go. You and Ginny remain in our prayers. God bless you both. With love, Mimi and Anna

Date:

August 09, 2003

Time:

12:00 AM

Comments

Thank you Bob & Ginny for sharing your love story with all of us. Your openness and courage is inspiring. May your passage be peaceful and beautiful. Marilyn, a JP neighbor

Date:

August 08, 2003

Time:

09:31 PM

Comments

August 8, 2003 Dear Bob, I have read and looked at everything and it is beautiful. You look much as I remember you and Ginny is lovely. You have wonderful friends and helpers and are doing everything with such introspection and dignity. I can't help thinking of your mother, who was also very brave in the same situation. I know she would be most proud of you and that you will have the continued courage to see this through. Love, Jean Mano

Date:

August 08, 2003

Time:

11:13 AM

Comments

two poems for bob from beth

                    To These Songs 

Your body is a divine stream, 

    as is your spirit. 

When your two great rivers merge, 

    one voice is found 

    and the earth applauds 

     in excitement. 

Shrines are erected to those songs 

    the hand and heart have sung 

     as they 

    served the world 

     with a love, a love 

     we cherish.         - St. John of the Cross 

 

The truth is inside you, and also inside me; 
you know the sprout is hidden inside the seed. 
We are all struggling; none of us has gone far. 
Let your arrogance go, and look around inside. 

The blue sky opens out farther and farther, 
the daily sense of failure goes away, 
the damage i have done to myself fades, 
a million suns come forward with light, 
when I sit firmly in that world. 

I hear bells ringing that no on has shaken, 
inside "love" there is more joy than we know of, 
rain pours down, although the sky is clear of clouds, 

there are whole rivers of light. 
The universe is shot through in all parts by a single sort of love, 
How hard it is to feel that love in all our four bodies! 

Those who hope to be reasonable about it fail. 
The arrogance of reason has separated us from that love. 
With the word "reason" you already feel miles away. 

How lucky Kabir is, that, surrounded by all this joy, 
he sings inside his own little boat. 
His poems amount to one soul meeting another. 
These songs are about forgetting dying and loss. 
They rise above both coming in and going out. 
                        -Kabir

Date:

August 01, 2003

Time:

05:26 PM

Comments

Dear Bob and Ginny, I have heard you mention the Turtle Journal so many times, Ginny, but tonight is the first time I have logged on. Bob, I have only met you a few times but your amazing courage, willingness to share all in your life with the world and your profound faith will always be an inspiration to me. You have been a wonderful gift to all who have come to know and love you. I wish for God's warm and strong arms to enfold you and cherish you on your next part of your journey. God bless you both always! Love and prayers, Kathy Foley

Date:

July 30, 2003

Time:

11:30 PM

Comments

Dear Bob and Ginny, I have been thinking about you a lot. I had a conversation with my mother today, who told me that her friend, who had been suffering for a long time from a neurological disease, had finally died. She had hung on and tried her best to enjoy her life for as long as possible, but death was a welcome release and my mother felt real relief for her. I couldn't help but think, however, how different your experience is, and how incredibly generous the two of you are to share all that you do with all of us. The intimacy of your struggles and your feelings are right here in the open for us to learn from. I am constantly impressed by how much consciousness you are bringing to this process, and how fearlessly you examine life and death and the place in between, (even though I know that sometimes you are afraid.) What a tremendous gift to us. This reminds me of a quote from Goethe: "Treat people as if they were what they ought to be, and you help them become what they are capable of becoming." Your faith in us (your friends, aquaintances, relations, students, and even strangers, who have found your beautiful web site) that we will understand your very intimate experiences helps us to do just that. So we do -- we read and understand, are touched by your words, and pass them on to others, who read, and understand, and pass them on... and a great lesson is passed on and on. The stone drops into the water, and the ripples expand out into the horizon. Thank you. I will come to sing for you tomorrow, along with others from Resounding Joy, if all goes well. I look forward to seeing you. Love to you both, Elizabeth

Date:

July 22, 2003

Time:

02:08 PM

Comments

Hi Bob, Hi Ginny. On the topic of "memories" the one that comes to mind for me immediately is from December 2001, the night Resounding Joy decided to go caroling in Arlington Heights . Remember, you two had made dinner reservations at that Fish restaurant? And had offered to have us come sing to them? The whole evening was really fun for me (despite the cold weather!) but the silliness of all of us serenading the unsuspecting diners at the restaurant was the highlight of my evening! It was so much fun! I'd only been singing with Resounding Joy for a few months at that time, and as it was a well-established group, and me a basically shy person, it had been taking me quite a while to feel comfortable in the group. That night was the first time I felt truly comfortable, truly part of the group, and the two of you played a big part in making that magic happen for me. Love, Lynne

Date:

July 20, 2003

Time:

03:55 PM

Comments

Dear Bob, How gracious of you to share your letters from John. What a wonderful outpouring of love and affection from a life-long friend! As we've talked about before, not having friends to share my life is not something I can imagine. I shared lunch yesterday with my oldest friend,"Aunt Jan", (that is what my children always called her) whom I have known since grammer school. We shared so much more than lunch. I care so deeply for her and we have a history that time and passing years cannot begin to dim. I, too value my friends and those relationships and you and Ginny have so many, many good, caring friends. They are truly a gift from God! You have been part of my life since you were a very young child. I am so grateful for what we have shared through out the years. Watching you grow and expand your horizons to the wonderful man you are today, has brought me great joy. I love you very much. Be at peace, dear Bob. Love, Aunt Carole

Date:

July 19, 2003

Time:

06:42 PM

Comments

Dear Bob and Ginny, Thank you for sharing the letters from John Phillips in TJ 23. I can't imagine a more lovely thing for one person to say about another. I don't remember John. I don't remember that you were a Scout. I, like John remember lots of cold and snow. I also remember having rabbit at your house but this was grilled rabbit halves like chicken breasts. Such city folks. I remember thinking it a little weird to be petting the rabbits before dinner! And that was a warm time in the summer, maybe. I remember staying with you one time and we went out on some big pond (it wasn't the zoo pond was it a frozen quarry lake)with some other boys and playing some sort of hockey without skates and without sticks. We used tree branches. And that is another memory. You could skate so well and I couldn't. You even did spins. I love you Bob. Love David and Carol

Date:

July 19, 2003

Time:

10:41 AM

Comments

I have a memory to share about Bob. Less than two years ago, Bob played the role of Joseph in the Waldorf School 's production of "The Shepherds' Play." He was a fabulous Joseph, and though he was already in the early stages of his illness, he took on the role and gave it 110%. His singing was lovely, and it was pure pleasure to watch him as the devoted husband to Karen Weiland's Mary. My family has seen the play many times, but his portrayal of Joesph is the one we will always remember, because he brought something truly special to it. I think everyone in the audience felt that it was a very memorable performance. On a very different note, and I hope this won't be taken the wrong way, from the first time I met him, Bob has always reminded me of Gene Wilder. I have always really liked Gene Wilder, partly because of the funny stuff he has done in movies, but also for the person he is off screen (from what I've read.) He is intelligent, witty, compassionate, and has a sweetness about him that all seem to be just like Bob, too. When we were flipping channels around recently and came across Gene Wilder in the old Willie Wonka movie, it made me smile because it reminded me of Bob. I know that from now on, Gene Wilder will bring Bob to mind for me, and I'm glad about that. Betsy Peck

Date:

July 18, 2003

Time:

09:36 PM

Comments

Dear Bob and Ginny, Your Turtle Journal is such an ongoing treasure! We love your new additions and also love hearing Bob read his poetry. Thank you for the gift. We love you. Joan and Paul P.S. Also thanks so much to John Burkhardt for making all this possible. What a beautiful and joyful work of art. Well done!

Date:

July 18, 2003

Time:

02:34 PM

Comments

Hi Bob and Ginny: Tried to pull up #23 and couldn't do so at this time; I'm sure I'll get it later. Think of the two of you very often, and I would LOVE to comment on first meeting Bob. This was at one of the Christmas Fairs at the Waldorf School in Bourne. In the first place, that school certainly knew how to do an event; it was so different than the usual fairs - just lovely. I found Ginny and she offered to "find" Bob and introduce me. What a happy occurrence. Bob was so gracious and handsome and genuine. I fell in love with him from that first moment. And in keeping with the excellent and tasteful planning of the Fair, there was Bob again with his music. What a treat. I shall never forget that and made sure I went other years, bringing friends, to that wonderful event. (Of course, Ginny doesn't know that I went to see Bob again)!!!!! Much love and thoughts and thanks to you both....xoxoxoxoxoxoxo

Date:

July 18, 2003

Time:

01:12 PM

Comments

Dear Bob and Ginny: It was wonderful seeing you on Sunday, Bob, but I'm sorry to hear the JP Licks Shake disagreed with you. Hope you've over the reaction. I've reminded my editor friend, Michele, to check out the latest on the Turtle Journal site and told her of your/our continued interest in a book. You continue to inspire and remind us all that life is to be lived daily - w/o fretting over the past or future. It's just today! Love, Michel, Anne, and Henry

Date:

July 16, 2003

Time:

07:20 PM

Comments

Dear Bob, Living in Switzerland then and Atlanta now meant our visits together were rare. But when we were together I learned something from you in a casual and incidental, (not a pedantic) way. Maybe because Stefan is the same age as your Waldorf children you often gave my experience of parenting a larger context. Remember meeting Luciano and me in Venice in the springtime of 1987? That was the first time we met you. We went to the Guggenheim museum and had some very good meals. (Ginny with her photographic memory for food might even remember what we ate. Has she ever forgotten a good meal? ) I have tremendous admiration for you and did before your seeming transcendence of the unbearable experience of ALS. That has left me simply speechless. You are an astonishing person, Bob Mendenhall. I wish I weren't so far away. All my love to you and Ginny. Jill

Date:

July 15, 2003

Time:

10:45 PM

Comments

Dear Bob and Ginny: I have been thinking alot about you both lately and wanted you to know that if you look at www.pictage.com you can view the pictures from the graduation. You will recognize many of the faces! Love, Bev

Date:

June 29, 2003

Time:

06:44 PM

Comments

Hi Bob and Ginny... just thinking of you today and wanted to let you know. We missed having you at your class' graduation but your words words were moving and powerful. They reminded me of how much you cared about your kids, even the ones that offered those interesting challenges and how much I appreciated working with someone who cared so deeply. Our own Grant had his senior graduation this past June and is now entering into the strange world of adult services, but as always, we are striving to create alternatives. Your words inspire me....I love your site... it gives me pause to consider what really matters and it gives me courage. thanks to you both for the words you share.... love, Karen

Date:

June 20, 2003

Time:

08:14 AM

Comments

Dear Bob and Ginny, I thought about you at and after the Waldorf graduation. I, and many others, cried as we listened to your letter. I have such nice memories of you in your first year of teaching. I laughed when I remembered you telling me about the fullness of the main lesson in your first few weeks and how you would come to the end of the two hours and realize you had not had enough time to tell the story. I also remembered your coming to my fifth grade and leading the groups in chants from India . And, the song you brought to faculty meeting that year, "return again, return to the land of your soul...born and reborn again." Your little ones are heading towards high school now. I know they will carry what you gave them into their adult lives. much love, Kim Allsup

Date:

June 17, 2003

Time:

07:15 PM

Comments

Dear Bob, and dear Ginny, also, my daughter Aileen sent me the address for Turtle Journal, and read to me over the phone a couple of your poems. I have known of you and your Journey, for a while, and am here to say I honor you and your clarity and depth of honesty. I do remember seeing you at the Waldorf when Aileen's children were there, and I would attend different functions. Seems aeons ago, hard to believe the changes, so many and so deep, for all of us! I will just send my blessings and say, I'd like to write you on actual paper, and tell you of my own poetry, blossoming the last few years. As well, I am writing what I call Spirit messages, transmissions from the Holy Spirit, with counsel , for people; this is a new development --to offer these to people, and it is truly a huge and wonderful opening. And I received something about and for you; I'll ask Aileen for your street address, and be in touch. I live up in Portsmouth , NH . You are living a miraculous life, you two. Plumbing a life process to its depths opens even deeper possibilities, doesn't it? Love to you, Mary Gildea

Date:

June 13, 2003

Time:

08:05 PM

Comments

Hi Bob and Ginny, We had a nice graduation ceremony. It was short and sweet...a couple of parents read the parents wishes for the class.Mr Van Sant made a few comments about Expectation. Your letter was read and was received with the feeling of your presants. We(the parent)were pleased to hear from you but saddened by your situation. Three of the class students read the class's feelings about the past,presant,and future...Time passes so quickly, they were just little children, now they're off to high school. After the ceremony and the reception at the school we went to Briarwood comference center at Monument Beach and had a cook out. The kids played wiffle-ball and the grown ups sat around and talked. The sun was not really shinning but it was a nice afternoon never the less. I hope you and Ginny enjoyed your time in Westerly . We continue to hold you in our hearts and minds.Wishing you both well. Rick Bev and kiva.

Date:

June 10, 2003

Time:

02:49 PM

Comments

Dear Bob and Dear Ginny, Love to you, Peace to you! Thank you for being here on this good Earth. Thank you for sharing such an intimate (yet could it be so universal) outpouring of love. We all need to do this. With every new twist and turn that comes, we are given opportunities. I am blessed by your sharing of your choices, your thoughts, your feelings, your fears, your joys, your YOU. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Aileen

Date:

June 04, 2003

Time:

03:25 AM

Comments

Dear Bob and Ginny, Karen told me about this website and I have been so touched by reading it. I remember you in your first year of class teaching at WSCC, so committed and caring. I see all of that here on this website too, your committment to communicate this amazing journey your care for meeting your challenges and all who care about you with such an open heart. Mother Theresa said something like,: God sends us only what we can handle. I wish he didn't trust me so much. Similarly, I can see how God would pick you both as a people who can be trusted..but I sure wish he hadn't given you such a heavy weight to carry. You are in my prayers everyday, love Kim Allsup

Date:

May 30, 2003

Time:

10:38 AM

Comments

Dear Bob and Ginny, I have ventured out of my lurking mode to send you both my thanks and love for your turtle journals. I have read them all and shared them with friends. I feel priviledged to share this with you and find your writings help me remember to live in each day as fully as I can. Ginny, I love your frozen foods essay. Thank you. It's funny to me how frightened I am of going into feelings and emotions that are scary and yet it is only then that I feel most vital. You are both wonderful teachers of this lesson. with love, Deidre Scott

Date:

May 28, 2003

Time:

11:38 PM

Comments

Hi Bob and Ginny, I love the new (and old!) pictures. They are so eloquent. I love the ones from the WSCC and the one of you, Bob, in bed in your elephant costume -- you know the one I mean ;-) These pictures show a brave person, yes, but one who is honest and clear about who he is and what his struggles are. More than anything, I think you can teach us all about honesty. You both have made it a practice in the TJ all along to be very up front about the trials and even sometimes the gifts of ALS. What an amazing thing! You two are some amazing people. I hope I'll see you soon. With love, Elizabeth

Date:

May 27, 2003

Time:

08:51 PM

Comments

DearBob, Thank you. Thanks for the smile. Thanks for the children. Thanks for the house. Thanks for the courage. Thanks for the clarity. Thanks for the honesty. I am lifted up. Thank you. Nick at the Cape

Date:

May 24, 2003

Time:

06:35 PM

Comments

Each issue of The Turtle Journal seems even better than the one before! "April Rain" is intense and moving Ginny - each stanza, each line, reaches deep into my heart. And "Fire and Light" is beautiful Bob. I love how you were able to put the emphasis on the light, on carrying on - and on now finding it "a little gentler" to try to face death having squarely faced fire many times. And the story about the frozen spinach and coworkers, and then the melting spinach and hearing from yourself was very moving Ginny. Thank you both for continuing to share your stories and poems. I always look forward to the next ones. John B.

Date:

May 21, 2003

Time:

03:27 PM

Comments

Hi Bob and Ginny: What insights you so generously and kindly give to us all. Here I am back at work after being out two weeks and feeling a little sorry for myself for not feeling 100% yet. Please forgive me. The Journal is certainly a gift to us all and one which will NEVER die. I feel so grateful to you both. Will talk again soon....much love...Jean xoxoxoxoxoxoxo

Date:

May 13, 2003

Time:

11:31 AM

Comments

How can such wonderful people that we love so much get this senseless disease. Your photo is a loving face with gentle eyes - a person one would want to know and immediately love to call "friend". Same with my wonderful husband John. Your poetry helps me see thru the eyes of another the things I must know...to be more compassionate, loving, strong and effective. Thank you. JT

Date:

May 09, 2003

Time:

04:51 PM

Comments

Bob and Ginny.. Bev shared this web site with me and it is incredibly amazing...your spirit comes shining through with each heart felt word. I've only had a little time to begin to read, but I'll be back. I just wanted to send you this quick note to let you know I'm thinking of you both and will be in touch. Bob, your words and thoughts really spoke to me. With loving thoughts, Karen

Date:

May 04, 2003

Time:

08:53 PM

Comments

Bob and Ginny, You have a beautiful website. Contents are very touching. I feel I know you now. I was so sorry you did not make it to Florida (at least not to Southwest Florida ). I hated to sound discouraging, but our area is not particularly accessible, even though the ads say otherwise. Also, seems expensive to me. I have thought of you often and wished I could have been more encouraging. JKH

Date:

May 04, 2003

Time:

12:00 PM

Comments

I just found this web site,just had my 54th birthday and have had limb onset als since July 2000. I live in Greenville ,NC and find it difficult to do things like pushing my self propelled lawn mower,still have ability to walk,talk although arms,shoulders etc. limit anythingabove the waist as far as lifting,carrying. I read some of your writing this morn,started to cry but continued. You are a blessing. Rick Poucher pouch@earthlink.net Glad I found your site. Peace to you.

Date:

April 26, 2003

Time:

11:01 PM

Comments

Gee Bob we knew you were special but actually reading about it is quite an experience. I'm not sure I know what to say other that to comment on the amount of thought and feeling your writing has generated for us. Thank you for the wake up call. Your life has touched our family and will continue to do so. Warmest Wishes, Rick, Bev, and Kiva

Date:

April 25, 2003

Time:

08:32 PM

Comments

Hi Bob and Ginny, Been thinking about both of you all week and wondering how you are doing. I called Monday night and left a message. Since I didn't hear back, I thought maybe you had gone away for a few days. We hope you are OK. I know Christine is looking forward to her visit next week. Take good care of one another..we love you! Aunt Carole and Rob

Date:

April 20, 2003

Time:

05:51 PM

Comments

Greetings Bob and Ginny from Morelia , Mexico . You are on are minds and in our hearts. Would have sent this to your email address but cant find it. We are having a good time but we miss you! This morning I had oevos divorciados: two fried eggs, separated (of course), one smothered in a red salsa, the other in a green salsa. And Shai discovered the mercado de los dulcos. A whole market devoted to sweets. Oy vei! Much love from Dan and Shai

Date:

April 20, 2003

Time:

11:23 AM

Comments

Ginny & I and John & Tina Burkhardt ad Joan & john McCabe celebrated Easter service last night together at All Saints Parish in Brookline. It was a beautiful, inspiring service with chorus music for the angels and for us. Blessings to all on this Easter morning! Love, Bob and Gin

Date:

April 19, 2003

Time:

11:22 PM

Comments

Hello, dear Bob and Ginny, I missed singing with you today and hope you are doing OK. I picture you having a picnic lunch in the Arboretum together with friends, laughing, joyful. Many Easter blessings on both of you. With love, Elizabeth

Date:

April 08, 2003

Time:

02:44 PM

Comments

Hi Bob and Ginny, I have finally read through the whole website. It is very touching. It was nice to see you again on Sunday and Happy Birthday again to Ginny. Love, Muffy

Date:

April 05, 2003

Time:

03:49 PM

Comments

Cher Bob, Quel Website magnifique! J'ai beaucoup aimé les photos. Tu es comme je t'avais imaginé et arrives à ressembler à ta mère. Georges Berteau est mort (94 ans!) et Doris est venue à Racine pour voir des amis et assister au dîner annuel français. Elle a aussi visité Horlick et était impressionnée de notre nouveau (4 ans est nouveau à Racine ) labo: 30 ordinateur avec des tapes recorders virtuels pour enregistrer, écouter, faire des CD roms etc.Les gosses n'étaient pas trop méchants alor je crois qu'elle a eu une bonne visite. Je suis désolée que tu ailles pire et que tu as de la peine à respirer. Ça doit être terrible. Mais tu restes si courageux et exprimes si bien tes sentiments. Merci pour tout partager avec nous. J'écris en français parce que tu avais dit qu'il t'amuse à la pratiquer. A la prochaine, Jean Mano

Date:

April 05, 2003

Time:

11:39 AM

Comments

Dear Friends, Thank you for your kind words. They help me heal & they help Gin & me gather more strength to continue facing "each delicious and dreadul moment"...And thanks again to John Burkardt for working tirelessly on this website, especially for continuing to fix the problems with the guest book page! To all who visit we hope you will leave a message here or send Gin & me an email. Love and peace To All!

 


Date:
   
      April 4 2003
Time: 
   
        01:27 PM

Comments:

Bob, You think your journey is slow, and indeed it is tortous to feel one loss after another on your way to the Next Life. We're all making the same journey, but speeds differ, and some of us won't experience those losses till we are among the very frail elderly. In that sense you are on the Express train. I myself, having experienced many of those losses in a flash at age 26, had not the prolonged agony of feeling one ability fade after another. Yet I realize, in bed late at night (as you were in your recorded thoughts), that the accrued losses of 35 years almost incommunicado and largely immobilized are more spiritual than physical. I've done too much weeping, too much cursing, not enough contemplation. I commend you for letting yourself experience each delicious and dreadul moment. Ray Glazier, 4/4/03

Date: 
       April 3, 2003
Time: 
        11:58 AM

Comments:

I have just read the current Turtle Journal and am feeling very sad but at the same time feel so empowered by the level of compassion expressed in your words and poems Bob. I can't imagine what it must be like to deal with ALS but your words help me understand a little bit.

The Tutle Journal website is so beautifully put together from the olive green background, the pattern on the background, the small B&W photo of Bob and Gin just above these words I type, the many pictures of friends and family, the collaboration of so many people whose energy is so felt in their efforts, people who care deeply about one another.

Peace to you and Ginny and your friends and family.

Jan Phillips
Albuerque, New Mexico

 

Date:
   
       March 23 2003

Time:
   
        4:47 AM

Comments

Dear Bob, This new website is truly beautiful! Easy to get around in, calm and pleasing to both eye and spirit. The photographs make you seem so present. I was reading your latest Journal, the March issue. I was reading your notebook, sharing your nighttime thoughts, taking a cue from your directions and keeping my pace slow and connected to the breath. You mentioned that it was 4:18 AM, and I instinctively looked at my clock - it said 4:17AM! Coincidence? One quote I heard recently that I am very fond of right now says, "There are no coincidences, just times when God chooses to remain anonymous." I was very moved by your eloquence, and saddened by the new losses you have had to face these last weeks. Thank you for having the courage and the grace to share the details of your life - both practical, physical and spiritual. It is so important to me and helps me keep a clear and current picture of you in my thoughts and prayers. Blessed Be, Jennifer


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